Friday, thank you for getting here. Whenever Friday rolls around I am always in this weird predicament. Because the days feel oh so long, but then it somehow is Friday and I think back and wonder where the week went. What happened Monday? What did I have for dinner Wednesday? Did it all really happen? It just seems like the days lag on but the moments slip away from me. To be honest, it worries me to think that I am so busy and focused on the next thing that I completely lose sight of what is right in front of me. I often wonder how much more “full” I would feel if I, as silly as it sounds, stopped to smell the roses every once in a while. If I put my phone down and observe the beautiful world we live in. If I got up ten minutes earlier to enjoy my coffee in silence. If I listened to how their day was. If I did this if I did that. The list goes on. But the reoccurring theme is if. What if we took all those if’s and made them realities. Turned them into when I’s instead of what if’s.
We live in this world where we try to fit as many things as we can into our schedule. We cut corners for precious minutes, but if we aren't even taking them in, are they even worth it? Think about it. We sleep as long as we can. We snooze. We use dry shampoo instead of washing our hair because well, that’s another 20 minutes that we don't have. We have done away with scrambled eggs and traded them in for a granola bar here a protein shake there. Our dining room tables have become dust collectors for homework assignments and sports schedules. We use paper plates because well we don't have time for dishes. We eat on the go. We work on the go. We do everything on the go. We live such a fast-paced life that when we finally get home we don't have the energy for anything but walking up the steps, putting on our pajamas, and going to bed. But is that what we do? Nope. We keep going. We never stop. Because there is this stigma that the house must be perfect. The socks have to be matched. The vacuum lines can never disappear. The emails have to be answered. So forth and so on. But for who? Who are we trying to impress? Who even cares? And if the answer is you, then more power to you. But a lot of the time, we live under the impression of everyone else’s opinion. We are so concerned about what everyone else thinks that we waste our precious time trying to live up to this standard that everyone is trying to achieve, but could care less if they ever did. So, we must stop. Plain and simple.
Because guess what happens when we don’t. We miss the conversation they were trying to have with us about how they got all their questions on their math test right. We miss he sweet gestures our loved ones do for us. Or we forget to give the dog some love. And most importantly, we stop doing the things we love. Like glasses of wine and bubble baths. Or reading and listening to music. We forget to enjoy this life that we have worked so hard for. We go and go and go and we forget to stop and take it all in. Because one day we will wake up and have this beautiful life that created but no memories to go with it. No laughs to look back on or smiles to re-feel, or conversations to ponder about. Because it has all just gone over our head. So today we stop. We think of the pros and cons of every single action we do. We use our eyes to see, our ears to hear, our noses to smell, our hands to do, and our hearts to feel. We engage our senses. We make like full again. And we live a life that WE want to live, not the one society thinks we should. So, know in your heart it is okay to say no. It’s okay to buy the cookies for the bake sale or send the email from your iPhone. Cut the corners that allow YOU more time, not the other way around.
So join me on this journey of taking control of the time we have. All of us are given the same amount of hours in a day. But what we do with it, that’s what separates us from the ones who are living and the ones who are alive. So let’s start today, together, hand in hand, heart in heart. Remind each other that time is precious and so is this life. Don't let it slip through your fingers any more than it already has. I leave you with now thought….what we give our time to is what defines us…so what is your definition?
With only love,