Hi there babes! It’s Friday!!! Believe me, I am in my classroom right now, with 18 kids, doing a happy dance because the only thing that stands between us and the weekend is a few worksheets, recess, lunch, and a spelling test!!! It is almost here and another work week, school week, mom week, has come to a close and the weekend is upon US. We can do it people. So this post is all about loving ourselves. A topic we don't shy away from talking about, we sometimes veer off the path from time to time. I know we talk about it a lot, but I have a little bit of a different lens that I am looking through this time.
Loving yourself is a life long commitment. It is not something that grows overnight. The product does not come with 2 day shipping. And you can’t go to Target to buy it either. Why? Because loving yourself is not something that is tangible, it is a mindset. A mindset that we decide for ourselves. Yes, there are things that we can do to ACHIEVE that love, but we can’t grasp it and hold onto it. We can only feel it and eventually become it. Rita Pearson, a life long teacher, once said that if you say something enough it starts to become a part of you. I like that. Like really like that. So I started to do that. With this saying.. I love you, always and all ways. For a while I only said this to DJ because that was how I promised to love him. Forever and in any state. But then I thought to myself one day, damn, the is a pretty sweet deal. How great would it be if I loved myself that way. That thought came and went just as fast as all my other self care thoughts had gone. Until recently. Until I was dragging. Until I needed to start loving my self always and in all ways.
These past 2 weeks my life has been flipped upside down. It has been amazing and I wouldn't change it for the world, but it is exhausting. And I found myself struggling. I found myself empty. Tired. Cranky. Not motivated. Distant. All of those things. I realized it was because I had to figure out how to love myself in this new stage of life. Because forever is, well, forever, but forever doesn't have a broken down minute by minute agenda. But life does. So when we say we will love ourselves always we don't allow any room for flexibility. Yes I still loved my life and my accomplishments and who I was these past two weeks, but I wasn't loving the state, shape, or form I was in. I wasn't loving the day to day, but rather the big picture. And I think a lot of us get caught here. I know I do. We love the big idea. We love the main idea. But we lose sight of the details. I am starting to realize that the details are what make the love capable of being felt.
Loving yourself can be found in a multitude of ways. But knowing what you need (all ways) is key. When you’re tired and exhausted, the best way to love yourself is by listening to your body. When life is busy and stressful, the best way to love yourself is doing something for yourself. When you want to feel better about how you look or feel, the best way to love yourself is with patience. When you're frustrated and sad, the best way to love yourself is to feel. Loving yourself isn't always found in a workout, a manicure, or a weekend trip. It can be found in reading a book before bed, bubble baths, wine, naps, long walks, cry sessions, hugs, and sometimes just good old peace and quiet. It is not a matter of IF we love ourselves but rather are we going to LET ourselves love ourselves. That’s when the magic will happen. When we begin to have autonomy over what we need.
So I ask yourself today to promise me this. That you will love yourself fiercely and forever. That you will love yourself in all the different walks of life. That you will adapt to what you need in times of change and growth. And that no matter what, no matter how hard it gets, you will never ever stop trying. Because at the end of the day, love starts with you. Deep down in your soul, and then one person at a time, it changes the world. So I leave you with this now that you know what it means…love yourself, always and all ways.
I love you,