-Releasing What No Longer Serves You-

    I’m sitting here thinking about the fact that we are here. Not just not here in this space together, but bigger. We are here in this community together. We are here in this time zone together, We are here on this earth together. We are here in this life together. When we think about what we actually are, like really think about it, it is kind of mind boggling. The kind of mind boggling where you get to the point where it doesn’t make sense. You don’t know the next thought and you start to circle back to the original thought you had that started the thinking in the first place. Does that make sense? It is something so amazing and big that we can’t quite comprehend how it is we exactly got here or the even more important question…why we are here. And that is okay. The questions we have regarding this are big ones. And that is okay. We don’t have to have the answers. We don’t need to know where to find them. But we can continue to do things that help us feel lighter and brighter. You know the things that make life worth it. The things that make us want to freeze time. The things we want to share or are proud to be associated with. Those are the things that lead us to these answers of the greatest phenomenon of life. Those are the things that we need to strive to do more of. Those are the things that piece it all together and slowly but surely make it make sense. Those are the things that set us free. When we are free, we are living out our why. We might not know it at that moment, but when we are our true, authentic, so in love with ourselves and our lives we are building, that is living your why. That is the goal. That is the answer to the million dollar, mind boggling, questions. So…how do we get there? Well, it’s a lot of things. But it starts with releasing the things in this life that no longer serve you. And that my dear, can be the hardest, yet most freeing thing you ever do. 

We are what we are surrounded by. We have all heard this quote before or some rendition of it. And the truth of it is, the quote cannot lie. We are a compilation of our daily doings. We are what we eat. We are what we see. We are what we do and what we do not do. We are simply the sum of all of our actions, good and bad. The power in this equation is we have the power to basically decide what we become. It is not just that easy. It is not a snap of the fingers, 1,2,3 done. It is usually the result of a lot of soul searching, pros and cons list, honest conversations, painful realizations, and a few tears as well. Learning how to be our best selves, usually comes as a result of living or feeling like our worst selves. That space and those thoughts are hard. That conversation we have to have with ourselves is hard. We usually don’t end up having it until we have to have it. That is because we can become comfortable in our lives, even if they don’t bring us joy. We can suppress our pain, even though we know it will not bring happiness. We cover up our fears, even though we know they prevent our dreams. We hide our hearts, even though they are what set us free. We bite our tongues, even though they hold such truth. We hold back our tears, even though they cleanse our souls. We feel we are too much, when we can never be enough. We tear ourselves down, when all we want to do is stand up. So how do we set ourselves free? How do we let go? How do we live out our why? We release and let go of all of these things. Simply because, they serve no positive purpose in our lives. 

There comes a point in your life where you have to ask yourself, “is this helping or hurting me live out my why?”. This could be today, tomorrow, last week, 2 weeks from now, or a few years from now. So what do we look at? Well, we are what we surround ourselves with so…People. Places. Things. Ideas. Thoughts. All of these are things that we have to examine from time to time. When you find yourself living in those things from above. The holding of tears, the covering of fear, the suppressing of pain, the biting of tongue, the hiding of hearts. When you get to the point where it all seems like it is going up in flames. Or you have no pure, authentic joy, look around. Maybe it is your job. You know, the one you spent your whole life building. The one you went to school for. The one that has supported you until now. Or maybe it is a friend. One you have had for many years. Who has been through life with you. Seen you at your worst and celebrated with you at your best. Maybe it is your identity. Maybe it is who your heart beats for. Maybe it is who your heart no longer beats for. Maybe it is this place. This city. This living situation. Who knows. All I know is that if THOSE things are making you live in fear or shame or hiding your true authentic self, they have no space in your life. They are toxic and it is time for them to no longer live rent free in your life. They are soul sucking. Joy killing. Heart breaking. You have to find the courage to release them. You have to find the strength to walk away from them. You have to release them, because…they no longer serve you. 

It is not easy. It is hard. It is full of doubt and anxiety. But it is from your heart. It is something your heart, soul, and mind are all connecting on, And when that happens, you have to trust in the purest form of advice…yourself.  You have to have faith that it will all work out. Because it always does. No matter what, if you’re constantly working towards love and light and putting good out into the world with your heart as your guide, it will find you. No. Matter. What. And it will bring you to the most beautiful version of yourself. Close your eyes. Imagine that. The best version of you. Let that lightness take over your right now. Let the doubt melt away. Let the fear leave you. Let the love in. The joy in. The hope in. Hold onto it. Let that be your guide to finding your why. Living your why starts with releasing the things that no longer serve you. Because they simply do not have a place in this beautiful, courageous, amazingly mind boggling awesome life you are living. You are worth it. And I will remind you each and every day. Yes you can. Head up, heart strong my dear. You got this. 

All my love,

C