Good morning tribe! I miss you all so much. What a week it has been!! I seriously feel like I say this every week because well honestly, every week is a week. They are all busy, stressful, long, and all the in betweens. The key to making it through the week is finding the little bits and pieces of calm and soaking them in. Because if we don’t, we know what happens. So make a promise to yourself that you will find the calm and hold on tight, because it is essential to making it through these weeks. But my question to you, what happens when we can’t? What happens when, undeniably, the week gets the best of us? What then? How do we handle it? Where does our mind go?
I can tell you that there will be those weeks. Sometimes months. When it just feels like the world is winning or someone is out there to get you. It is life, it happens, and that is something that we can’t control. But what we can control is how we deal with it. That is something that is 100% in our control. But when you’re in the thick of it, the last thing we are thinking about is what is the BEST way to handle this, we just do what we think is best in that moment. Because we are human and we are impulsive and that is okay. So now the question has changed from how do we handle the hectic week to how do we handle the choices we made during the hectic week. And when does that get handled or thought through…you got it!! During another hectic week. So how do we break this cycle. How do we stop the second guessing, the carrying, the thinking, the worrying. I will tell you, its not easy. If anything it is really hard. But it is not impossible and that is key.
I am no different then the rest of you. I am feeling this right here with you. And one thing comes to mind. A Maren Morris song, The Bones. The lyrics of this song are just too good. “when the bones are good the rest don’t matter.” That line, right there, that is the answer people. Read it again. If the bones are good, the rest don't matter. Notice how deep it goes. All the way to the bones. Listen, I know it seems like these things that come flying around are the end all be all. The interview is defining. Your relationships are who you are. Your education is your reputation. And we spend WEEKS even YEARS of our lives trying to perfect all these other things. But for what? For who? Because listen, if the bones aren't good…the interview will fail. The relationship will be toxic. The education will be useless. Those are just qualities of you. But your bones…they are you. You cant be you without you. So its time to focus on that…time to focus on you.
So how do we strengthen the bones? How do we let go of the senseless things and focus on the important ones. Well, it starts with a promise. It starts with allowing yourself to let go. Of people. Experiences. Mistakes. Wrongdoings. Toxic people. Life begins when we turn on our hearts. So it is time to let go of all of that and turn on love. By doing that, we become strong from within and start to shine out. And suddenly our life is so bright, our love is so strong, that these weeks are life. We can see the joy that is in them and deal with the stress as it comes. When we re-shift our focus on bettering ourselves instead of being weighed down by ourselves, life gets a whole lot lighter. So let’s do that.
The most beautiful thing about this life is we all can connect on one level. We are all human. We all can relate to this on some level. We can turn to each other for advice. We can lean on each other when it gets to heavy. We can cry. We can listen. We can be. That is the answer. That is the secret. That is what we are going to do. Right here and right now. From now on, we worry about making the bones good because guess what…if they are good, the rest doesn't matter.
I'm right here with you. With love and strength,