Happy Friday loves! I hope the week has treated you well. I thought today would be a perfect time to talk about the people in our lives. I always say that these blogs are simply inspired by life. I know that in my life personally and other people face that troubling question of why people come into our lives. 9 times out of 10 we never question why they come into our lives because at that point, it is all happy. Things are going well, memories are being made, you feel like you have known them your whole life. So why would you question it? It’s almost like it is too good to be true. So we let it go. We ride the high. We have fun. We grow closer. And we think everything is perfect. Until one day it isn’t. Now I'm not saying that this is the case every time we meet someone because we all have those life long friends that grow through life with us, but there are people who come into our lives and then suddenly are gone. And that can be hard. It can be confusing. And it can leave us thinking a million little things, but the main one being “why?”…
I think we all have been there before, whether it was with a friend, a boyfriend, or a girlfriend, it happens to all of us. The hardest part about this is we usually don't see it coming. Everything is going great and then boom one day it is gone. I know this feeling because I too have experienced it in my life. When I started to realize that a lot of people around me were going through this right now it really got me thinking. I wanted to know why these things happen. Why one day it can be great and the next not. Why people can just so easily walk away. When I sat down to think about it, so many things came popping into my head. And I fell into the trap that we all do. The first person I went to blame was myself. I went back to every single thing, every single moment, every single memory, and I thought did I do something wrong? Was I the reason this friendship, relationship, etc was over? Or was my judgment in people wrong? Could I not see people for who they really were? Was I blinded by the feel-good feelings? Was I not a good person? Did they think I was weird? Was I not pretty enough? Funny enough? The list went on and on in my head, but then I told myself to stop. It amazes me how when something goes wrong in our lives the first person we beat up is ourselves. We become the fault regardless of the issue. And that is what must stop. Because at the end of all of that negative self-talk, I realized something.
We are all humans. At the end of the day that is what it boils down to. And while we are all brought into this world the same way and we all have the same organs etc, we are not all wired the same way. How my brain works are not how someone else’s does. What my heart beats for is not the same as what your heart beats for. There are differences in all of us. They are what make us uniquely ourselves. But sometimes what makes me-me and what makes you-you, sometimes they clash, they don't line up perfectly, there are gaps in the relationship. And we convince ourselves it will get better or that we will work on it, but some things are just not savable. Things like fundamental differences. they just don't add up sometimes. And that is okay. It has to be okay. Because it is the only reason that gives us a little bit of closure as to why these things happen. Because sometimes it is us. And yes sometimes we make the mistakes. But sometimes we don’t. And sometimes it is out of our control. The solution to this is simple to say but hard to do. It all starts with being content with who we are. Living our life the way we want to. And being okay with knowing that some people are going to stay and some people are going to leave. I always think to myself there is a reason some people have stayed. Cling to them. Love them. Make memories with them. Know that the ones who are meant to be there will be there. Don't get hung up on the ones who came and left quicker than you can imagine. Simply be happy with the time you had with them and grateful for the lessons you learned both good and bad. And know, that deep down inside, you are worthy of only love, and someday someone will share that with you. But until then, the person reading this thinks you're pretty amazing and worthy of love. Don’t forget that ever.
Be you. Love you. Fall in love with your life and the rest will fall into place.
All my love,