Hi there beautiful, this is your soul speaking. I want you to listen to me for once because what I have to say is really important. I know I know you don’t have time; the kids have to get on the bus, the groceries have to be put away, the email has to be answered, the phone conference needs to be un muted and guess what, once you’re done listening to me, all of that will still be there, waiting for you to attend to it. But for now, it’s time to take a step back and just listen.
One day, you’re going to wake up and not realize where the time went. And I’m sure that you’ve had those moments before of wondering how you got to this place you’re at now. I get it. Life is hectic and it doesn’t stop for anyone. Including you. And while we can’t make time stop or standstill, we can stop ourselves. We can control what we let occupy our time. We can’t control the roller coaster of life that we are on, but we can outsmart it. We can take a step back from things. We can say no. We can take a deep breath. We can turn our phones off. We can stop comparing ourselves to other women. I know, it seems simple, and I’m here to validate that voice in your head right now that is telling you it’s not that simple, because it’s not, but it’s so beyond worth it.
There are always going to be the super high highs and the lower than low lows in life. And sometimes it feels like you can’t stop. It’s one thing after the other and before you know it you’re living a life that doesn’t feel like yours. You have lost sight of the beautiful women inside. You do and do for everyone but yourself and it’s hard. I know how you feel. You just want to walk away from it all. You want someone else to offer to help with homework or to pick the kids up from school. You want to be the one to get the credit for the idea you came up with. You want to be recognized for the long hours you put in. You want someone to notice that you’re running on empty because you’re too proud to speak up. But it’s time to use your voice. It’s time to be heard. Because guess what happens if you don’t. Did you ever think of that? You’re a whole lot more than someone to unload groceries and answer emails, match socks, and go on coffee runs and sometimes, I think you forget that. So, let me remind you.
You are strong. You are beautiful. You are smart. You are worthy of so much. It is time to start giving what you give everyone else to yourself. Go for a walk. Let the dishes sit there. Pour a glass of wine. Have a night with the girls. Do something for yourself. Because in order to give your best, you have to be your best. I know this is so hard to grasp and it’s okay, you don’t have to put this into place today, but let's plant the seed. Put this idea in your head. Start to let go of the control and see where you need to add things to your routine that make YOU happy. Because when you don’t, it results in the same thing. A breakdown, a crying phone call, a sleepless night, a fight. You know the drill, we all have been there. And it’s time that we recognize it and make a change.
So beautiful, right here and right now, we are going to make a promise to each other. We are going to make time for ourselves. We are going to be first for once. We are going to find what makes our heart skip a beat. And then, we are going to do it. Because we deserve it. You are a woman. You were built to be strong, to be brave, to endure emotions and pain. But sometimes we need a little help. Everyone needs a little bit of work, a little love, a little healing and that is okay. It is okay to admit that we need to take care of ourselves. Because recognizing our weaknesses is actually the greatest strength we have. So for all of you out there who are afraid this will make you seem weak or not capable, listen up, it actually does the complete opposite.
At the end of the day, we have one life. One shot to make this the closest we can to perfect. So we start today. We give this world love to get it right back. We work on ourselves for ourselves. We laugh. We smile. We cherish the memories. We are grateful. And we take it all in one day at a time. Because when our time comes, it’s not going to matter if the socks were matched, or if the cookies were homemade, or if the work deadlines were met, or if you were five minuets late or five minuets early. All that is going to matter, is what we did with the time we had. And believe me, you all are so beyond worthy of being able to look back and have nothing but amazing memories to remember. So do it for her. Do it for yourself in 40 years. Let her look back and smile on every single high and low this life took you on, you’ll thank me later. Enjoy the struggles. Rejoice in the victories. And plant the seed of taking care of yourself and I promise, it will bloom into the best version of you.
With only love,
The beautiful soul of the woman reading this