January 3rd. That’s the day. It’s day 3 of this new year new me, be the author of your own story, look forward not back. And guess what, it’s hard. It’s hard to break the habits. To not eat the chips. To drink the coffee without the cream. To pack a lunch instead of buy. To get to the gym. To say the nice thing. It’s hard to break old habits. I realized that with high expectations and big lifestyle changes all at the same time, there is a lot of room for us to let ourselves down. Not because we can’t do it, but because we are human. And guess what, that is okay. It is okay to slip back. It is okay to regress. It is okay to pour the glass. As long as we know it come with two steps forward the next day. I thought a lot about resolutions this year. I thought more so about how I would ensure that I could achieve them. I realized that setting specific goals with numbers and timelines just wasn't working. Because what happens when the date come and the goal has not been met…disappointment. You think you have failed and that all that hard work goes to shit because quite frankly, you were more focused on the finish line then the walk there. We’ve all done it before, I know I have, where we think the end day is going to make it all better. That if we just get there it will magically happen. And for those of us that have fallen into this trap know that the sad reality is it never works that way. So how do we set resolutions for ourselves without inevitably being disappointed about it? I think I have the answer.
I realized that the whole point of a resolution is for it to make you better. To help you become the best version of yourself. I mean we start the year all motivated and excited because we think this is THE thing that is going to make all the clouds somehow shine. But why do we limit that to just a year? I mean if 2020 is the year of hydration does that just stop when 2021 comes around? Or does it even make it that far in the first place? These are the questions that we need to be asking ourselves when we set these goals. I think a better way of phrasing these resolutions is by calling them lifestyle changes. I think that is the only way to ensure that what we want here in this very day, is accomplished by this very day next year, and even further than that, for the rest of our lives. I think by taking it habit by habit, day by day, issue by issue, we can transform our lives into the healthiest, happiest, versions of ourselves.
But what about this word wholesome? Why is this the title. Well because I think it should be the root of all of our lifestyle changes. I have been thinking a lot about what the difference is between having it and having it all. And it think it comes down to whether or not it was wholesome. Stay with me, I know this sounds strange. Imagine in your head someone who loves their job. Who loves their husband, wife, or partner. Who loves themselves. Who loves to eat clean during the weeks and indulge on the weekends. Who always has something nice to say when faced with conflict. Who seeks to understand. Who listens and cares. Who has time for what seems like anything and anyone. Imagine them in your head right now. I know I am sitting here thinking yep, they have it all figured out and I can barely keep myself from cheating on day 2 of my healthy eating plan. And that is the point. these people. The ones who “have it all”, the ones who have cracked the code. it wasn’t in just one year. It wasn't one vision board. It wasn't just one goal. It was the choice to make a wholesome life change. To take it into their own hands. To incorporate it slowly but surely. To do it at their pace. To do it with the goal of bettering themselves with no expectations or dates or end goals in sight. Because the reality is if it’s good enough for us to make our whole year about, it has to be good enough for us to want it forever.
So I ask you today to make the wholesome choice. The one that will be here for years to come. Do more things that make you whole. Eat more things that fuel your body. Drink more things that hydrate and energize. Think more things that light a fire in your soul and put a beat in your heart. Say more things that bring sunshine to not only your life, but others. Do this today. Do it tomorrow. Do it fast or do it slow. But just keep doing it. Because our time here as people has an end, but who we are while we we’re here lives on forever. So decide today to be know as the person who had it all in the best of ways. Because this journey, these goals, they are really just the road map to the best version of yourself. And when you have that, well you pretty much have it all.
2020, may you be wholesome. May you be bright. May you be everything we need.